Being a Mom is amazing. However, amidst the beautiful moments, many of us experience an overwhelming emotion known as mom guilt. Whether it’s due to societal pressures, internal expectations, or simply the desire to be the best mom possible, mom guilt can weigh heavily on a woman’s shoulders. In a recent podcast, we chatted all about how we experience it personally and how we can better manage it. If you haven’t, give it a listen!
In this post, we wanted to explore practical strategies for managing mom guilt, so that you can help yourself be more present, give yourself some grace, and live with less guilt, because if you are an amazing mom just for reading this!
Understanding Mom Guilt:
So, what is “mom guilt”?. We think of it as the feeling, or worry, that you should be doing more or that you’re not a good enough mom. Another way to think about it is the unrealistic idea that we need to be perfect moms.
It’s really important to recognize that mom guilt is a universal experience and that you are not alone in this journey. It’s also important to realize that it may never completely go away, but we can better manage it by being proactive with a few strategies:
- Identify Unrealistic Expectations:
One of the first steps in managing mom guilt is to acknowledge and challenge unrealistic expectations. Social media can be filled with these perfect images of motherhood, which can lead to feelings of guilt if you feel like you can’t compare to what others are showing off. Remember that perfection is unattainable, and social media is often a highlight reel. No one is perfect, and that mom you think is, may be struggling with her own insecurities. Embrace imperfections as valuable learning opportunities and focus on the love and care you provide for your children.
I know my mom wasn’t perfect, but I never once thought that as a child. Even at 36, I look back on our childhood as amazing because she was always there for us, not because our house was in perfect order or we had the best clothes.
- Prioritize Self-Care:
Sometimes we can feel selfish for being away from our kids. Taking care of yourself is not a selfish act; it is a necessity. REPEAT THIS OVER AND OVER!Prioritizing self-care allows you to recharge, maintain your well-being, and ultimately be a better parent. Set aside dedicated time for activities that bring you joy and make you feel good. Whether it’s working out, reading, going out with friends, or pursuing a hobby. Remember, when you take care of yourself, you are also taking care of your children.
- Practice Mindfulness:
Being present in the current moment can help alleviate mom guilt. Mindfulness enables you to be fully present with your children, embracing quality time without distractions or self-judgment. Try to set your phone down when you’re with them and just be there and take it all in.
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Seek Support:
This is one huge reason we started The MINT Prjct! No one can navigate motherhood alone, so it’s crucial to seek support when needed. Connect with fellow moms who can empathize with your experiences, share advice, and provide a listening ear. Join parenting groups or online communities where you can find a sense of belonging and support. Seek help from a licensed therapist if needed. Sometimes just venting to another mom can be the best! Remember, reaching out for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
When you join any of our programs, you get access to our MINT Mamas FB Group where we support each other in all sorts of ways!
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Reframe Guilt as Growth:
Instead of allowing guilt to consume you, reframe it as an opportunity for personal growth. Reflect on your actions, learn from any perceived mistakes, and make conscious choices moving forward. Remember that you are doing the best you can with the resources and knowledge you have at any given moment. Give yourself grace and remember, we are all a work in progress!
Managing mom guilt is an ongoing process that requires self-awareness, self-care, and a shift in mindset. By challenging unrealistic expectations, prioritizing self-care, practicing mindfulness, seeking support, and reframing guilt as growth, you can cultivate a healthier and more balanced approach to motherhood.
Remember that being a “good mom” isn’t about being perfect or having it all together. It’s about being present and showing your children unconditional love. Embrace the journey, embrace yourself, and reach out if you need anything! You got this 🙂
For more information on any of our programs, head to the Programs tab at the top of this page!
To listen to the podcast on Mom Guilt:
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mint-prjct/id1654921425?i=1000618728538
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2K08AXFXBx6z7x5Re18leX?si=zXEWcsrISUunNHntmUr8Eg
